![]() ![]() Our parenting instincts (derived from our experiences of being parented) frequently lead us unintentionally to deny our children’s feelings even when we’re trying to help them feel better. ![]() A major obstacle to accepting our children’s feelings, for most of us, is that our feelings weren’t accepted and respected as children. Denying our children’s feelings creates arguments, hostility, and poor cooperation between us and them. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen presents an approach to “getting kids to listen” that assumes there is a “direct connection between how kids feel and how they behave.” Instead of enforcing cooperation through threats, scoldings, bribes, or punishments, authors Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish believe that helping our children feel better is the best way to get them to behave better.Īccording Faber and Mazlish, we help our children to feel better by accepting and respecting their feelings. ![]() The book is based on the work of famed child psychologist Haim Ginott, but it presents his ideas in a much more accessible and easy to apply format than Ginott’s own classic parenting book: Between Parent & Child. My favorite by far (I’ve read it 4 or 5 times) is Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish’s How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk. ![]() In my roles as a parent and as a psychologist, I have read many books on parenting. ![]()
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